My Men

Let me tell you about the first time I kissed a man.

We were sitting in his car which was parked on a muddy path in a forest above the city. I grabbed him as if I never wanted to let him go. Years of longing for that very warmth and physical presence diminished with every second as I was clinging to him.

Later in my life, I met Rado and Bas. This is a story about my life with them, a document of two relationships.

I probably felt that the three of us were about to take separate paths. These are the images I took in the last months of belonging to them.

2012 - video projection, publication, vase with lilies

4:3 video projection, 4′ 20″

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15 x 21 cm, 68 pages, French folded and perfect bound, self-published edition of 100

Nederlands Fotomuseum, Rotterdam (2012)


Graduation show, KABK – Royal Academy of Art, The Hague (2012)


‘Pride Pop-Up’, Rokin Metro Station, Amsterdam (2013)

Close, Het Nutshuis & Acte de présence, The Hague (2014)

Also shown at

  • ‘Now Or Never #2’, GEM, The Hague (2013)
  • 14th International Feminist And Queer Festival Red Dawns, Ljubljana (2013)
  • Tokyo Photo, Ten Haaf Projects (2013)
  • ‘You Made Me Love You’, Derde Wal, Nijmegen (2014)
  • Ten Haaf Projects, Amsterdam (solo show, 2014)
  • EYE Film institute Netherlands (part of the documentation collection)